What nasty stuff are you avoiding by keeping yourself busy all the time?
There is a difference between being busy, and subconsciously making sure you are always doing something so you can ignore the stuff in your mind that would be potentially uncomfortable, if you actually faced it.
If you find yourself never, ever sitting still for more than 2 minutes without distracting your brain, consider that there’s something that you’re hiding from. I’ve known people make themselves ill by keeping going all the time. I’ve seen relationships fail for the same reason. All because it’s scary to deal with emotions that are uncomfortable.
That ‘elephant in the room’ is never going away unless you drag him out of the corner and take a look at him. You can always put him away again afterwards, if you really want to, but just take one good look at him. What kind of elephant (emotion) is he? Fear? Anxiety? Sadness? Where did he come from? What’s so scary about having a look at him? What’s the worst thing that could happen? Once you take your elephant out and explore him a little, he’s likely to take up less room in the back of your mind. Tell him how you feel about him, if you like.
The advantages of dealing with the stuff that you race around trying to hide from are really worth having. You can choose whether to get busy, or not. You can choose to sit and stare and do nothing much. You can wear your big boy or big girl pants, knowing you’re grown up enough to handle uncomfortable feelings. You get freedom too. I think that’s the best thing, don’t you?
If you’re ready to slow down and face the yucky stuff, good luck! I’m very happy for you. As always, if you need a little support with it, or you want to let me know how you get on, get in touch.
By Judith Flowerday