Category: Success!

Waiting for success

Stop Waiting For Success.

Are you lazy? Do you think you shouldn’t have to work for things?

Are you waiting for somebody else to drop success in your lap?

How long will you wait before you realise that’s not going to happen? As nice as that would be, the chances are slim to zero. So, where does that leave you?

Well, you could sit and wait, dreaming vaguely of how nice it would be to be, do or have what you want. If dreaming is enough for you, great! You carry on. But don’t whine in 15 years time when you feel dissatisfied.

If there is something you really want, you will have to get off your ass and do something about it. Sorry.

I’ve written articles, and a download, available here on this website (free, if you’d like one!), which talk you through a step-by-step process to maximise your chances of success. I’m not going to rehash that now. Before I give you a quick overview of the steps required, remember that working hard to achieve your goal won’t guarantee you achieve it, but you will stand a much greater chance than if you wait for it to come to you!

It doesn’t matter if your success looks like 50% more profit for your business, 3 dress sizes smaller, a marathon trained for and run or to spend an extra 2 hours with your family and friends each week. It’s all success, and the formula is the same. This is a very simplified version, but sometimes simple is good: –

  • What is it exactly that you want?
  • Feel passionate about it!
  • Set an achievable timescale. When do you want it?
  • Get help/resources if you need them.
  • Have a plan to deal with the things that could stop you, including yourself sabotaging it.
  • Take action.
  • Stay motivated.
  • Review. Tweak if required. Celebrate the little successes along the way.
  • Succeed. You’ve achieved what you set out to!
  • Celebrate!

The big difference between waiting for success, and going out to get it is action. If you don’t take action, consistently, nothing will happen!

However big or small your dream is, get off your ass and go get it! Good luck. I wish you success.

If you need a little extra guidance, get in touch.

You can grab a ridiculously generous 65% discount against our ‘Be Successful’ self-hypnosis recording (never while driving) on CD or MP3, when you quote CCD65 at checkout. If you’ve struggled before with staying focused and motivated, listening to this every night as you go to bed, could help you to keep on track.

By Judith Flowerday

Make it happen

Change. 5 Step Formula To Actually Make It Happen This Time.

Do you only ever dream of the changes that you want to make, but never quite get there?

If it’s time for you to take control and really go after what you want then consistent focus, motivation and a success mindset will give you a much greater chance of achieving your desired outcome.

If you are serious about making even one change in your life (or work) you may find the following steps helpful: –

No. 1 – What exactly do you want?

Describe exactly what you want to change. The more detail you identify, the clearer your goal will be in your mind. If you function best with a mind map or a vision board, or simply writing things down, do whatever feels right for you. See the achievement of that goal in such detail that you feel passionate about achieving success. Now put a date on it. That should have made it real for you, right there! The date is a guideline; something for you to aim for. It’s not set in stone. Because it’s not set in stone it doesn’t mean you can pushing that date further away though!

A quick reality check: –

What have you done so far to make this change? How did that work out? What lessons have you learned from that experience?

What do you need in order to be in with a chance of achieving what you want? Support? Resources?

Do you really believe that success is possible? It doesn’t matter if it is a big or brave plan, but is it achievable?

What needs to change in order for you to move forward?

What would you be doing differently if you knew for sure that you could not fail?

No. 2 – What is holding you back?

What has held you back in the past from being, doing or having what you really want? Be honest now.

What could you do to stop that sabotaging your chance of success in the future?

What could hold you back in the future?

Do you tell yourself that you’re a failure, or that you don’t deserve success? Sort that idea out pronto or it’ll always hold you back!

Is your goal so enormous that you feel overwhelmed by it? How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Baby steps are OK too.

If you’re having a wobble, remember all the things that you’ve been successful at in the past.

Are you a procrastinator? Well, do you want this or not? Why are you waiting?

Scared of success? You can stay in your comfort zone or go for it, and maybe achieve more than you had ever imagined.

No. 3 – Make a plan

What do you need to do to see your plan through to the finish line?

What options do you have?

What resources or support will you need?

What exactly will you do?

How will you do it?

When exactly will you take each step?

What is your first step? And then the one after that?

No. 4 – Begin, review, and keep moving forward

You’ve set the date to take your first step. No excuses now, just take it. Then regularly review your progress. When you review where you are now you will see if you are still heading in the right direction. If you need to get back on course you can spot that before it bites you. You may need to tweak your original plan.

Review where you are at the end of each day and prepare for tomorrow.

Review your performance/skills and identify any areas that need improvement. Maybe you need to outsource a task that is too challenging or time consuming for you? Are you still being effective or are you spreading yourself too thin and trying to do several different tasks at once?

Check that you still know why you’re doing what you’re doing and that you still feel passionate about where you’re headed.

If you become overwhelmed or lacking in motivation begin prioritising at the beginning of each day then focus on the most important task for a set period of time. Take a break and then prioritise again, then focus on the task that is most pressing now. Repeat until you have reached the end of your working day or you have achieved what you set out to.

Regularly look back. Recognise how far you’ve come and feel good about it!


No. 5 – Enjoy the journey

Too often we focus on the achievement of our goal and not how we get there. Imagine you’re on a train. All you’re focusing on is your destination and what you’ll do when you arrive. Delays are an irritation and other passengers trying to engage you in conversation become an annoyance. What are you missing while your focus is intently fixed on that station further down the track?

Now imagine climbing aboard that train with a totally different mindset. What if you were to spend your journey being aware of what was happening around you? What if you were actually ‘open’ to the experiences available to you? You could observe interesting people in your carriage, wonder what their stories are, and maybe even strike up a conversation with one of them. Where could that lead you? What could you discover via this chance meeting? You may have an ‘aha’ moment that brings great clarity regarding a challenge that you are facing or something may occur that brings your success even closer. But of course, none of this is going to happen if you’re only focusing on your destination…

When you finally achieve your success, know for sure that you deserve it and feel unbelievably proud of yourself! Don’t gloat though. That’s just nasty 😉

I hope that this blog helps you to see that you can make those changes that you so desperately want.

Making changes and improvements in life can be really hard work! If you think you could benefit from further support, check out my exclusive ‘Be Successful’ self-hypnosis recording on CD or MP3. It will help you to get and stay in the right mindset. You can find it here. 

You may have several areas of life or work that you wish to change. My 7 Wonders articles may give you a head start. They’re free and you can grab yours here.

By: Judith Flowerday

Happy change

Change – 11 Ways To Stop It Driving You Bonkers

The changes that have happened to you, or those that you have chosen to make, may well have driven you to distraction. Your stress levels may have gone sky-high and taken a very long time to return to normal.

Have you considered that just maybe you could do something to ease that transition? Not necessarily to welcome it with open arms, but to cope with change just a little better? Next time change is driving you totally bonkers, think about these: –

  • You are likely to believe that change is either scary or exciting. Accept that your belief depends totally on your perception of it, and not reality.
  • Don’t be a victim. If you always focus on the bad things that happen to you or are likely to happen to you, “just like it always does *big self-pitying sigh*”, then guess what? That is exactly what life will be like for you!
  • Be prepared for others to freak out when you suddenly change yourself, or your life. Try to share your plans with them before you change things. Understand how unsettling it could be for them. If you care about them feeling unsettled, try to talk them through the benefits to them too.
  • Consider the consequences of change before you make it.
  • Accept that you will have to change your thoughts, feelings and behaviour. No change can happen without every one of these.
  • Realise that it’s OK to relapse back into old habits. Just keep trying if this change is still something that you want.
  • Learn from ‘failure’. Did you fail or did you simply discover a new way not to do something?
  • Get support, or make sure that you have any resources that you need, before you make changes.
  • Don’t just pile in and keep charging ahead. Plan your first step. Check it’s possible, even with a huge leap of faith. Regularly review your progress and the direction that you’re heading in. Tweak if required to get/keep you on the best course for you.
  • Accept that obstacles can, and will, get in the way! Don’t give up. Don’t ignore them. Deal with them in the way that feels right for you. Work your way around them or crash through them. Get somebody else to help you move them to one side. Go with your flow, not against it. Be prepared. Have a plan B.
  • Visualise the positive outcome of change. Look back only to see how far you’ve come, not to feel bitter about what you’ve lost.


    “You don’t try to build a well, you don’t set out to build a wall, you don’t say I am going to build the biggest baddest wall that has ever been built, you don’t start there, you say I am going to lay this brick as perfectly as a brick can be laid and you do that every single day until you have a wall.” – Will Smith

I hope this blog helps you to cope with change in a more positive way. If you do find it really challenging in certain areas of your life, you may find my free downloadable articles useful. You can get yours here

By: Judith Flowerday

Reflect and plan

Reflect and Plan

The beginning of a new year often finds us reflecting on the past and determinedly making plans to change things for the better. Some ideas that may help you gain some clarity: –

  • What 1 thing could you have done differently, or better, last year?
  • What is it time for you to stop doing?
  • What is it time for you to start doing, or do more of?
  • What have you been putting off, and why?
  • This time next year, what do you want to be, do or have?
  • What will you do about getting what you want? You know, things don’t generally just land in your lap!


Wishing you a healthy, happy and successful year.



How do you eat an elephant?

How Do You Eat An Elephant?

Q: “How do you eat an elephant?”
A: “One bite at a time.”

We all know this phrase but how many of us still become totally overwhelmed by the enormity of a goal we want to achieve or a task we need to complete? Even if that elephant is sitting right in front of you 24 hours a day, it’s unlikely that you’d get anywhere fast by taking random bites from various parts. Separate your ‘elephant’ into different sections and simply begin to eat it ‘one bite at a time’. A systematic approach will get you where you need to be.

Periodically take a step back and look at how much of the elephant you’ve already eaten. You may need to adjust which section you’re working on. You may need to change the time of day that you spend eating. You may need to spend longer eating or take regular rest periods in order to be eat more productively. It’s your elephant, eat it however works best for you.

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