Do you only ever dream of the changes that you want to make, but never quite get there?
If it’s time for you to take control and really go after what you want then consistent focus, motivation and a success mindset will give you a much greater chance of achieving your desired outcome.
If you are serious about making even one change in your life (or work) you may find the following steps helpful: –
No. 1 – What exactly do you want?
Describe exactly what you want to change. The more detail you identify, the clearer your goal will be in your mind. If you function best with a mind map or a vision board, or simply writing things down, do whatever feels right for you. See the achievement of that goal in such detail that you feel passionate about achieving success. Now put a date on it. That should have made it real for you, right there! The date is a guideline; something for you to aim for. It’s not set in stone. Because it’s not set in stone it doesn’t mean you can pushing that date further away though!
A quick reality check: –
What have you done so far to make this change? How did that work out? What lessons have you learned from that experience?
What do you need in order to be in with a chance of achieving what you want? Support? Resources?
Do you really believe that success is possible? It doesn’t matter if it is a big or brave plan, but is it achievable?
What needs to change in order for you to move forward?
What would you be doing differently if you knew for sure that you could not fail?
No. 2 – What is holding you back?
What has held you back in the past from being, doing or having what you really want? Be honest now.
What could you do to stop that sabotaging your chance of success in the future?
What could hold you back in the future?
Do you tell yourself that you’re a failure, or that you don’t deserve success? Sort that idea out pronto or it’ll always hold you back!
Is your goal so enormous that you feel overwhelmed by it? How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Baby steps are OK too.
If you’re having a wobble, remember all the things that you’ve been successful at in the past.
Are you a procrastinator? Well, do you want this or not? Why are you waiting?
Scared of success? You can stay in your comfort zone or go for it, and maybe achieve more than you had ever imagined.
No. 3 – Make a plan
What do you need to do to see your plan through to the finish line?
What options do you have?
What resources or support will you need?
What exactly will you do?
How will you do it?
When exactly will you take each step?
What is your first step? And then the one after that?
No. 4 – Begin, review, and keep moving forward
You’ve set the date to take your first step. No excuses now, just take it. Then regularly review your progress. When you review where you are now you will see if you are still heading in the right direction. If you need to get back on course you can spot that before it bites you. You may need to tweak your original plan.
Review where you are at the end of each day and prepare for tomorrow.
Review your performance/skills and identify any areas that need improvement. Maybe you need to outsource a task that is too challenging or time consuming for you? Are you still being effective or are you spreading yourself too thin and trying to do several different tasks at once?
Check that you still know why you’re doing what you’re doing and that you still feel passionate about where you’re headed.
If you become overwhelmed or lacking in motivation begin prioritising at the beginning of each day then focus on the most important task for a set period of time. Take a break and then prioritise again, then focus on the task that is most pressing now. Repeat until you have reached the end of your working day or you have achieved what you set out to.
Regularly look back. Recognise how far you’ve come and feel good about it!
No. 5 – Enjoy the journey
Too often we focus on the achievement of our goal and not how we get there. Imagine you’re on a train. All you’re focusing on is your destination and what you’ll do when you arrive. Delays are an irritation and other passengers trying to engage you in conversation become an annoyance. What are you missing while your focus is intently fixed on that station further down the track?
Now imagine climbing aboard that train with a totally different mindset. What if you were to spend your journey being aware of what was happening around you? What if you were actually ‘open’ to the experiences available to you? You could observe interesting people in your carriage, wonder what their stories are, and maybe even strike up a conversation with one of them. Where could that lead you? What could you discover via this chance meeting? You may have an ‘aha’ moment that brings great clarity regarding a challenge that you are facing or something may occur that brings your success even closer. But of course, none of this is going to happen if you’re only focusing on your destination…
When you finally achieve your success, know for sure that you deserve it and feel unbelievably proud of yourself! Don’t gloat though. That’s just nasty 😉
I hope that this blog helps you to see that you can make those changes that you so desperately want.
Making changes and improvements in life can be really hard work! If you think you could benefit from further support, check out my exclusive ‘Be Successful’ self-hypnosis recording on CD or MP3. It will help you to get and stay in the right mindset. You can find it here.
You may have several areas of life or work that you wish to change. My 7 Wonders articles may give you a head start. They’re free and you can grab yours here.
By: Judith Flowerday